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What an elusive thing confidence is. It always seems to be just out of our grasp. When I was young I remember the textbook reason for messing anything up, “oh he just needs more confidence”, “ah they just lack the confidence at the moment”. We’ve been constantly brainwashed to believe we don’t have enough confidence, as if our glasses are always half full. I have never been a confident kid. Always struggling with sports, each performance causing such nerve wreaking stress I had lost before I even ventured onto the field. I’m not alone, almost 85 percent of the population “suffer” from lack of confidence.

Why do we say that man, “suffer”, as if it’s some sort of illness to be cured. It’s no illness, it’s not a symptom or a sickness. It’s a mindset. Change how you think and confidence will freaking flow from you. At least that’s what I hope hahaha. 

So what is the secret to being confident? 

 It’s not easy. I know more than anyone how hard being confident can be. But I truly think that confidence is just a mask you put on whenever you go out in public. It’s a character you portray really. I’m not saying I am someone different in public, but rather I over exaggerate things which might be seen as confidence. Play the character of yourself. Be yourself, like just yourself, that can be your character. Sink into yourself, exaggerate what makes you you. Smile, laugh, say whatever you are thinking (as long as it’s not rude of course) there’s no point holding anything back, life’s too short for that (cliche but true). 

It will click. I read a book a little while ago, it said that really, no one is ever thinking of judging you, ever. They’re far too engrossed in themselves and how they portray who they are to the world to be worrying about you. Grow yourself by being yourself! Dance like a wildfire under that star studded sky. Chase lost dreams across barren beaches. Laugh in the sunlight. Butter your toast with gusto. Sing in that shower with such ferocity  the house threatens to sing right along side you. 

You’re on the right track, enjoy what you’re becoming because it’s gonna be damn wicked once you start flying. Don’t get hung up on people: we are self centred, every one of us. We only care about what we look like.  Think about it really, you’re constantly worrying about yourself right? That’s where the confidence thing comes from in the first place! You see that’s the mistake though isn’t it, we worry so much about ourselves when really it’s what’s happening around us that matters. We mustn’t lose sight of what matters when we pin so much upon ourselves and our confidence. You look far more beautiful if your watching the world rather then yourself.